How to Vow:

Your vows are a personal reflection of your relationship and there’s no one right way to write them. But if you’re not sure where to begin, this simple 3- part structure is a great place to start.

Step 1: Reflect on the Beginning

Start by sharing a moment that captures when you first realised your feelings for your partner. This could be the moment you knew you were in love, when you first imagined a future together, or when you realised this was the person you wanted to marry.

Bonus points if its’ an insight your spouse hasn’t heard before.
You do not need to share the full story, just a meaningful glimpse into the early stages of your relationship that sets the tone for everything that has followed.

Step 2: Acknowledge what you love about your partner

The second part of your vows can focus on what you appreciate most about them. This section allows you to honour your partner and acknowledge what they bring to your relationship. It is often the most emotionally resonant part of the vows, and a great way to

express your gratitude for their presence in your life.

Step 2: Make your promises for the future

This final section is where the actual “vowing” happens. Think about the commitments you want to make as you step into marriage. These can be serious or light-hearted. Simply state the promises you are making to them as you enter into your marriage.

If done right, your vows will be not only beautiful words to your partner on the wedding day, but will act as a guiding statement for your marriage for years to come. As you go through life’s ups and downs you may find yourself coming back to these promises, so make them a real reflection of how you hope to be as a partner.